Everyday I think of u ben
by Sara gallant
I worked with ben for years he was special to me everynite I would never leave without the most sincerest embrace .I cry when I think of someone as special as u not being here I pray in the end we do meet again wu wu

what a guy
by Alison B
I started at the Webster as an intern while I was in college, it was my first internship and I remember LOVING my time there. I loved working with everyone but especially with Ben, who was always patient, always joking around, and he made me feel so comfortable there even when it got out of control crazy during shows. Ben had kept in touch with me since then, invited me to his Christmas parties (even though I don't live in CT anymore and could never go) and I distinctly remember around the middle of January having a dream with Ben in it and I thought how it had been awhile and that I had to get in touch with him...and a few days later I'd hear from a friend that he'd gone missing, and well, I'm not saying it was a sign but Ben would probably want me to think that it was. I will greatly miss Ben, and I feel so fortunate for having known him at all. My heart goes out to his family and the Webster clan.

Ben will be missed
by Chris (formerly of Sicboy)
I was a member of a local band for nearly 10 years, that had the opportunity to play the Webster on several occasions. Able to play, due in no small part to Ben Wu. The several times I got to meet and 'work' with Ben were great experiences. He had a tremendous amount of respect for the local bands struggling to just get a gig and have the opportunity to play a great venue like the Webster and the Underground. His professionalism and enthusiasm will be truly missed by all in the local CT music community. People like Ben only come around so often and his loss will be felt by many. I hope that there are some 'torch bearers' in our area who can use Ben as a source of inspiration and approach our local music scene with the same level of professionalism as Ben did. My condolences to the Wu family and all his friends who miss him dearly.

ben...
by walter.
It's a shock to have found this website...I hadn't thought of Ben in sometime. The band I used to play in would play at the Webster Theatre from time to time (we were from maine) and It was always a pleasure to work w/ Ben. He was always very generous and kind and a true professional. I'm sad to hear he's gone.

hamhawk..
by jess.
Oh man, I don't really know what to write here..but if I don't then I will be forever regretful that I didn't post something..and I wanted to get up so badly at your memorial to say something..but the timing felt not right..so I wanted to do it the right way I guess.. Our last talk pretty much involved into a major blow out of a fight..which at first when I learned about your dissaperence filled me with such guilt..I didn't really understand what we were fighting about..I just knew you were mad at me and I was mad at you..I understand I need to keep my word..and don't give up on people as much..and ya know what ben..you're right..you are the only person that I've ever let to put me in my place about that subject and my crazy mind. I know where ever you are they you are happy now..and you've deserved this happiness for quite some time. You are a godsent. And a true angel..whenever I get sad about you..I simply look up..I know you're smiling down on me..I will say this to you..I will love like I have never loved before..for the rest of my life..and u missed my birthday and I want my mini cake. Nobody can come close to the man you are today and will always hold u very close to my heart. And everytime I see a hamhawk ill point them out..and then we will disagree cause you have horrible taste..Ben, thanks for believing in me..and teaching me around the webster, thanks for all the 2nd chances.thanks for all the dinners..especially the alligator and thanks for being probaly the most hardworking person I have ever met.. I will truly keep your legacy alive in everything I do. Shine your light down on brother jeff too. He'd give the world up to find you. We all will...and I still owe you dinner.

All Bands Created Equal
by JF
I remember what it was like calling clubs up to get my band a gig. Some club owners were so rude on the phone. And you always got the same threat, "you better bring people or you'll never play here again!". I remember telling Ben how local bands and national agents would be in awe of him because he had the make you or break you authority in the club. But Ben never saw it that way. He treated everybody with respect and gave everyone a chance. He didn't understand what I meant when I told him that the bands looked up to him. To Ben, he was just part of the system, and there was no point in being un-kind. To the local bands, you'll never know how much of an ally you had in the business.

Shock the bi's
by Justin Thibault
For nearly 5 years, probably 4to6 days a week, 8to14 hours a day I sat to Ben's left at a rigidity old desk next to his. I started as an intern, started booking, started stage crew, and worked my way up the latter to his assistant and wing-man. It became more than just working together. It turned into hanging out without having to be at work. Playing football, tennis, the gym, the driving range, posting fliers, buying weights, helping him move things because I have a truck, building an attic, going out to eat...but also advice, and a friendship, someone to call or rely on. He saw potential in me, and I knew he would complete anything he set his mind to. I recall first starting to work with Ben, he was very slim, mushroom hair cut. Then he cut some hair and slicked it back. One random day he came into work with a Mohawk, eventually dying it red. Although funny at first, it was now that every time I see anybody with a Mohawk, Ben comes to mind. Its taken me awhile to muster up enough to actually post something on a site about Ben. I am still in somewhat dis-belief and heartbroken about losing what was the closest person to me in my life. I saw Ben more than I saw my own father, or girlfriend or neighbors. Its hard to change your daily routine of a face you see on a regular basis opposed to never seeing him again and not being able to say goodbye with no questions answered. I would wake up everyday, jump on AIM to talk about the days business ahead, then see him at work shortly after, work aside from him throughout the day, then lift weights and talk throughout the evening, after heading home we would be online talking about the days business again. Now, I struggle to even go online because I'm missing a piece to the puzzle. Ben, There is no fact that you have passed on. Your ipod was found on the beach, you own 2 more! You tossed it because you didn't like the songs on it, the ones at home are better with better songs, right? Finish your Corona in Mexico and come home so we can do another "Power Hour" and "shock the bi's" once again. I miss you. Safe travels. Jeff, Same goes for you. Whatever company, whatever venue, whatever the case was, I always had your back. You know how to get awhile of me. Anything you need, just ask. Keep in touch. See you soon. Stay safe.

Continuance
by Jesse (Thir13teen)
As we continue on with our lives lets us not remember solely that Ben is gone, But to remember more of who Ben was and what he meant to each of us in our own personal way. Simply remembering his name once a day will keep Ben alive in our hearts and minds and will allow us to celebrate his life for eternity. We all would like closure in this difficult time, weather we ever will is unknown. The more positive we can stay and the more support we can give each other, the easier our memories of Ben can be shared. One thing is for certain. There will be never a bond between two people as that of Jeff and Ben. Jeff’s drive and dedication to find out what happened surpasses all the golden rules of both friendship and family. That is a “true” friend. One I am glad to know.....Hang in there Jeff .... My regards go out to all.

Ben
by Paul Murray w/ Jennifer Hill & Co.
It had been several months since I had been in touch with Ben, and just recently tried to reconnect to discuss music again. I worked with Ben at the Webster several years ago and had never met a kid with such true dedication to live music and its continuity in CT. He was an amazing person. I feel so lost that I just found out today while posting promotions online.

QU Chronicle
by Alexandra
I've never gotten the chance to meet Ben personally, but have spoken to him through e-mails on numerous occasions. As an A&E Editor of Quinnipiac University's The Chronicle, Ben and I have contacted each other often and he helped immensely in the process of getting us tickets or booking interviews. I don't think he knew how much all of us at The Chronicle appreciated what he did for us, and he will be so so missed.

Sea of Emotions
by HOPE
Its so hard to put into words the emotions that run through you when people are gone. Its like you are watching your life from the outside....everything seems muffled..Not being able to say goodbye is the hardest thing, you are always left wondering what if?. When you are with others who are sharing the loss, you can feel the weight of the sorrow...I couldnt bring myself to speak at Bens memorial, yet I had so much to say...I still feel as if he is here somewhere....I keep Hope that things will turn up. And hope to see him round the corner...I know it probably seems silly to think that. But its a feeling I have..I fond it hard to speak of him in past tense....why should I? Are people ever really GONE? .I am forever grateful to Jeff to be the one who perserveres and keeps the hope and the light even in the darkest places....We love you Ben...

Memorial
by Marie
I wanted to thank Jeff and friends that organized the memorial for all of us to attend. It was beautiful, and it was very sweet of you to show us the videos you had taken in tortola....The photo slide show was amazing too. I did notice the weather was a bit strange until we started the memorial....And then we had sun for a few hours:) I think ben is shining on us all. Thanks again:)

Ben
by Punk Rock
This is one of the hardest things I've ever done - saying goodbye to someone I dearly loved. Ben was such a special person - always smiling, always cheerful, and always willing to help. In 2006, he was right there to do all he could to make sure the ALS benefit show I hosted was successful. I can't imagine The Webster without Ben. He will be hugely missed! Love and peace, Ben, 'til I see you on the other side.

GREAT MEMORIES
by MIKE gerow
IF IT WASNT FOR BEN GIVING EVERYBAND I WAS IN A SHOW TO PLAY I WOULD HAVE NEVER HAD THE MEMORIES OR EXPERIENCES THAT HAVE STUCK WITH ME TILL THIS DAY. NO MATTER WHAT HE WOULD PUT YOU ON A SHOW, HE IS AN AWESOME GUY.

Thank you Ben
by Mike Falzone
If i stopped playing music today i could easily look back and say that Ben Wu provided me with the chance to play some of my most memorable shows ever. Ben gave me the chances of a lifetime and i will never forget him for that. He will always live on in my mind as one of the few who took it upon themselves to bring life to the CT music Scene. We all thank you Ben. We and all eternally grateful for the helping hand you lent us.

Ben
by Jim
Ben really made my dreams come true. Its kind of cliche to say that but I mean it. No matter what, when the band that I was in asked for a show to play, he would give us 3. He was always there for us. Even when I left one of my guitars there I thought it would be gone for good, he took care of it and locked it up in his office. Ben was the man, and he still is. It was terible to hear about his loss but I know he's looking down on us now. My thoughts and prayrs continue to go out to his family and friends.

His light will never go out
by Heather
It has taken me a long time to come on here and post . Not because I had nothing to say but because I have SO much that I want to say about Ben and I just cant seem to find the words. Ben has always been a part of the Webster family for me. Wether I was there to take pictures or just see a show he was always there with a smile, a hug and some info about the current status of his Warcraft toon (we played together). Im going to miss the IMs and emails about bands he was looking to book and asking if I thought they would draw. Im going to miss the jingling of the millions of keys as he was walking around the theatre. I dont want to give up hope. I dont want to loose that light Jeff was talking about. We are all going to miss you every day Ben.

Condolescenses
by Dr. J from Psychotic Reaction
I'm schocked he passed. So young..too young. I only met Ben once when Psychotic Reaction first played the Webster back in '05 but he seemed like a cool guy. From what i've seen and heard he was a real go getter as far as helping out local musicians (including us) and for that i (we) thank him. Rest in Peace.

Top Notch Music Promotions
by Casey (with the regards of DFY)
Ben Wu was an outstanding music promoter. He did more than enough to show the guys in DFY (the band I manage) the utmost respect. He went out of his way to ensure that we had the most pleasant experience at the Webster Theater opening for Project/Object: A Tribute To Frank Zappa. He will be sorely missed.

My second family
by Dan "Emo" Bartolucci.
Ben, you're the one who got me the job at the webster two years ago. It's because of you that I have all these wonderful people in my life now. The people I work with, hang with, and love so damn much. I can't imagine my life without them. Thank you for that man. I try to live and work like you would brother. We miss you, keep us safe.

great loss
by jimmy c
ben was a class act in a music scene where sometimes it was all about money . but ben always give all kinds of bands a chance to open up for the bigger touring acts. thanks to ben we had a good local music at the webster. rip my friend you will be missed

Ben Rocks!
by INK
We played The Webster Theatre several times and Ben was always a cool cat! He will be missed very much by all his friends, family and the Music Scene. Our condolenses go out to Ben's loved ones. Deepest regrets, Solar Steve, Gonz and Richi Rich INK

RIP Ben Wu
by Mike N.
I still remember the first time I met Ben. We were to play a show in the underground for the first time ever and we handed in the tickets that we couldn't sell and were so embarrassed that we couldn't sell them all. but there was ben as supporting as can be and told us not to worry about it and we'll have you back here soon enough. Ben was a great guy. I got my truck towed after a Straylight Run show a few years ago and he ended up giving me a ride to impound and waited there with me for 2 hours for my dad to get there. You will be missed Ben. you did alot of great things for people in your life and that wont be forgotten.

ben
by Jay Cortez
Like so many others who were drawn to Ben, I am deeply grieved and bewildered by his unexpected death. Our deepest sympathy to friends and family. From all the staff at Inform.

Ben remembered from EOM
by C. "jamo" Jamieson
I had the pleaseure of working with Ben, when I was in a local CT band. His dedication to the local music scene is unmatched. I am sorry to hear what has happened, and my deepest sympathy goes out to his family and close friends. "We are all one of a kind & he is one that will be missed. The ocean has not swallowed him but carried him to a better place."

Kind Heart....
by Barbara Hill
My deepest sympathy to Bens' family, in going through this unexpected loss. I will truly miss him as a friend; a bright smile and kind-hearted soul who shared his love for music, supported local artists and gave Connecticut a place in the national spotlight. Shine on.....

at the expense of repeating others, a good man
by Mike of Black Stool
Of the relatively few times we've worked with Ben on the shows we've played at the Webster, it was always a pleasant worthwhile experience. He demonstrated a sense of responsibility that showed that he cared about his work and his commitment to doing what he could in his power to give local bands a chance to open for some of the better tours coming through the area. I think that I share this sentiment with many of the rest of the musicians signing this guestbook and think they'll agree that he did his best to make the Webster experience as welcoming as he could.

ben
by dina
he was a great guy to deal with- always smiling and ready to make it happen made me feel like he truly valued his job and the people he dealt with... I loved chatting him up at the Webster or out in Hartford at the bars the Webster will never be the same... we miss you Ben Wu!

Subject Lines
by Vinnie Penn
The day I heard the news I already began missing emails from Ben, wherein the subject line was always hilarious if it had to do with a show he just booked involving an "80's band". I feel confident that--be it Winger or Tesla or even a band with a CD I never owned like Bang Tango--Ben emailed me first. And found a way to insult my taste in music. He was downright shocked when he'd spot me at a show for a newer artist, particularly over at the Underground. As someone who still spends the majority of his days daydreaming I can only hope Ben will still turn up. With a hell of a story.

Thanks for the time he had here
by Joe & Sheila Garrett , Groton
My wife and I watched Ben and Joyce grow up at the family restaurant in North Stonington and always knew both children would be special. Both were very well raised and a pleasure to know. From all I have read Ben continued his polite and calm demeanor through out his short life. My heart and thoughts go out to his close knit family during this trying time. Jerry, Virginia and Joyce our most sincere thoughts are with you. I was not able to make it to the memorial service because of scheduling conflicts and for that I apologize. Please rest assured Ben will always be remembered for the man everyone knew and loved.

Ben
by Eric
Ben treated every band and every person equally. He saw me and the guys in my band on the same level as the marquis headliners coming through the main stage that night. He was a great guy. This is so sad

The show will go on
by Ray Owles
Anyone who passed through the doors of the Webster Theater over the past 12 years got to take a piece of Ben Wu with them when they left. Ben's hard work, dedication and passion to the music industry created a memorable experience for the bands that played, the fans that paid and the co-workers that helped make the show happen. Ben may be gone from our sight, but he will live on through the memories and dreams he created for the bands and their fans, and through the laughter and love that he shared with his friends and family.

Great Guy
by Bryan
Have worked with Ben for about 5 years with a couple bands. Stolen Cherry and current project Cheap Thrills. Always handled us professionally and gave us many opportunities to play the Webster. My heart felt sympathy goes to his family and close friends.

We'll see you soon
by Roman Garbacik (Spare Change Records)
I've know been for almost ten years. He's helped my personal bands, bands on our label, and more people "get a shot", than you can imagine. He would always go out of his way to help out anyone, and I will always consider him a great friend. Our heart goes out to all that were close to him. We'll all see him again when our time comes. Until then he lives in our thoughts and efforts. He will be missed.

Good man
by Dorian and Pluto Gang
What I will remember most about Ben was his willingness to try new things out. If I mentioned a band that might have a good draw (they might not either) he would go out of his way to see if the show was possible, and he usually came through. In doing that he was able to book some dream shows for me. I truly appreciate that. He would go the extra mile when he could just have easily said "no".

our prayers
by chams
On behalf of myself and the other members of doa2k, my heartfelt condolenses go out to you and your family. In CT, where original gigs are hard to come by, Ben made booking and performing at the Webster a pleasure, a class act for sure. You will be missed ~ cHaMs

Always a joyful man
by J. Raven - WCCC
Ben and I met 11 or so years ago working together in the crazy business of music we all love so much. Through many trying times and easy ones too Ben was always a level headed, smart, talented professional. Beyond that, as you know he truly loved what he did and that powered him to do all of it with great passion. No matter my mood when coming to the Webster Ben would always put a smile on my face by just being Ben. I saw Ben two days before he left when he came to visit me DJ'ing down the street from his place in Middletown. I feel blessed because we spent a good amount of time hanging out that night and he is so vividly in the forefront of my mind. Life came from the ocean, a wonderful one has returned. My prayers hope for the return of Ben to his family. May he find peace where he has ascended.

Godspeed
by Craig
Ben helped me on many occasions. I definately owe him big time for giving me a chance to get some exposure during some killer shows at The Webster. I started dealing with Ben about ten years ago. He always was willing to give me and whatever band I was involved in a shot. I appreciate the work he did for the Hartford local music scene. Ben and I werent tight. I never wanted to bother him because I knew he was a busy guy, but he was always very friendly and took the time to say hello to me whenever I was there. Be well on your journey man.

GOD SPEED
by G2
YOU WERE A COOL MOTHERFUCKER GOD SPEED & BLESSINGS TO YOUR FAM. ELEVATEDTHOUGHTS.COM

Goodbye Ben
by Lauren
I never actually met Ben, but we had numerous email conversations, regarding band bookings. It's a shame. Goodbye Ben, rest in peace fellow music promoter. Lauren, webmaster of www.WestchesterRocks.com

He gave us a chance
by Ronnie Suraci
I never met Ben in person but he booked my band at the Webster a few times. Those were the best shows I had ever played and it was because of Ben that I was able to play them. He was a cool guy and will be missed. So on behalf of my band, "Good Question", we say thanks to Ben for giving us he chance to play. R.I.P

Personality
by Chris S.
A 14, 17, and 19 years old, playing the mainstage, Ben treated me as respectfully and professionally as he did any other musician. His appreciation of and attitude for budding musicians was encouraging and confidence-building.

Thanks
by Africa
We would like to thank Ben for all the hard work he put into helping promote our band. We wish him the best.

ben will be missed
by Falling Season
Ben Wu hooked us up with so many good shows @ webster theater. he was a very kind man. we will truely miss him. Ben, rest in peace borther.

This is a bad dream!
by Eileen - Crank It Up ent.
I feel like this is a bad dream.. I don't understand how or why people like Ben are taken from this world. I never knew his family I worked with him through the Webster he was one of a kind professional, handsome & sweet. Ben you were one of the good guys and will be missed so much. God Bless You..

life is precious
by Leah
When I was in high school I interned at the Webster for several months, working under Ben. I only knew him for a short while, but I enjoyed his company and he helped foster my current ambition to be a music journalist. I just wanted to say thank you.

TRAG
by Nora Tragianese
I can't thank Ben enough for giving TRAG the opportunity to showcase new, ORIGINAL music in a State where Cover Bands usually get the gigs.... That meant - and means - the WORLD to us. Thank you for your support and love of music, Ben... Vaya Con Dios.

What a loss
by John Mastropietro
I met Ben a few times when our band played at the Webster Theater. He always had a smile on his face and went out of his way to accomodate everyone. Though I didnt really know Ben, I do know that he was a great person. The CT music scene will surely miss one of its greatest advocates.

You will be missed brother
by Don from Wired
We only played the Webster once but I will never forget how Ben took time out to stop and talk to us before we went on. He seemed like a great, down to earth guy. If we had more people like Ben in this world it would be a much better place. Our prayers go out to his family and friends.

what a good guy
by Nick
I personally did not know Ben, but it was through him that my band was able to play at the Webster. He went out of his way just to give a few suburban kids the chance to do what they love, play music on a stage. I give this man a lot of credit for that, and he has probably helped so many other kids in small time bands get on stage. He will be greatly missed.

Thanks Ben
by Mike L.
I worked with Ben about getting my band a few shows at Webster Theatre in Hartford and he was always willing to help us out and try to get our names out there, and for that I'll be forever thankful. Rest in peace, Ben.

From THE FLAMES for Ben
by The Flames
BEN WU -- R.I.P. Hartford, CT. will never be the same if you are in a band. It has been almost 10 years since I met Ben through playing a show at The Webster Theater with one of my first bands "ANGRY SALAD" -- we had just put out a record and what was "104.1 WMRQ" was playing our single... Ben was extremely supportive and truly happy that a kid from CT. was "doing it".... even though we drew about 75 people.... As the years went on, I would always bring whatever band I was in through town and Ben would ALWAYS make it work, and always with a smile on his face...I will miss seeing that smile, as will a lot of people. Ben was a real fan of music, and one the nicest guys in a sometimes not-so nice business. My heart goes out to Ben's family, everyone at the Webster and of course, Jeff. gonna miss ya bro. --alex Ben by Matt Starr - The Flames (Reposted from an earlier post) I met Ben like most musicians in Connecticut, by playing the Webster. When you’re starting out you are very eager & can have a tendency to bug the hell out of press & club bookers…anyone who you think can help you. I was no exception. No matter how many times I called or how many questions I had for Ben, he was always polite & took the time to answer. After moving to Los Angeles, I always looked forward to returning to the Webster to play. Ben was always the same, a class act. My condolences to Jeff & to Ben’s family & friends For Ben: When news of Ben's passing reached me in AZ it made me realize how fragile our lives really are & that any of us at any moment could leave this earth suddenly,as Ben did..He was always kind & fair to us (THE FLAMES) when we all lived in CT & played the Webster as a local act. His hospitality & professionalism continued as we came back to play w/ various acts once we all relocated out west. He welcomed us,took care of us AND put up w/ plenty of our tomfoolery! He brought a touch of class into this business of music that was rare & refreshing. Ben, you will always be remembered . ~Chad MacDonald

You will be missed...
by Jon Skonieczny "Jonny Promo"
Most of the work I did with Ben happened in the weeks leading up the shows...setting up promotions and ticket giveaways for WCCC. He was always a pleasure to work with and quick to help out with any issues that popped up along the way. He was great at what he did, but more importantly, he was a great person. Ben, you will be missed...

you are missed
by Jenna & Chris
To know Ben was to love him. He may not be within our sights but everyone who knew him will hold him in there hearts. Ben will truly be missed by all. He is in my prayers, a beautiful person that has left us to soon.

One of a Kind
by Jeff Messier/Dj Lock Mess
The golden moments in the stream of life rush past us, and we see nothing but sand; the angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone. -George Eliot You will be greatly missed my friend.

With Greatest Sympathy
by Candi Bramante
We had the pleasure of working with both Ben and Jeff on and off throughout the years and like all of you, are very saddened to hear the news of Ben's passing. To all of Ben's family & friends...our deepest condolences. From the ENTIRE Daddy's Junky Music family.

Sad
by Brad F
I didn't really know Ben outside of doing some business with him and booking shows. He was always helpful and friendly. It's a shame.

you are missed
by Mike Randazzese
Ben, thank you for all you have done for me in the past. You have always been patient and a huge help for bands all over the state. Because of you i was able to live some of my dreams. They say the good die young, but ben you were great. My heart goes out to you and your family. I cant believe this has happend. Youre the man. We miss you!

hope?
by K
I will spend the rest of my life waiting for Ben's return, he will call someday, I'm sure of it, and I will hold that opinion until the day comes when "god" proves me wrong. If this situation was reversed, Ben would NEVER give up hope on me, so I wont give up on him.. EVER....

Ben
by Matt Starr - The Flames
I met Ben like most musicians in Connecticut, by playing the Webster. When you’re starting out you are very eager & can have a tendency to bug the hell out of press & club bookers…anyone who you think can help you. I was no exception. No matter how many times I called or how many questions I had for Ben, he was always polite & took the time to answer. After moving to Los Angeles, I always looked forward to returning to the Webster to play. Ben was always the same, a class act. My condolences to Jeff & to Ben’s family & friends.

Always with a Smile
by Eric Logan Summit
I had the great pleasure to know Ben for the better part of a decade. He always treated me with respect (even if I didn't deserve it) and he always had a smile for me. Through the years I worked with Ben while I was a jock on New Rock Radio 104 and most recently with Kenny Mehler and the boys. Before the show we had a chance to sit back and talk about how we were getting old and told some funny stories about all the shit I used to pull with help from Jager. We laughed together, and that was the last time I sat and talked with Ben...and I am glad we had the opportunity laugh together one last time. Thank you Ben for being you, and thank you for being my friend. I will miss you.

We will miss you
by Kami Fluetsch
Ben, I will continue to pray for you and your family. You are a great guy and I want to thank you for your continued friendship!!!! Thank you for helping and coordinating the Christmas party with Natasha, Heather and myself. It was really nice getting to know you and getting to know you more through Erica. We MISS you. One day we will meet again. I can't wait for that day to rejoice JESUS with you. Peace in Christ,

A Great Guy
by Stuart Goldberg
I have had many of my artists play shows at the Webster and each time I saw a booking I knew that the show and my ticket needs would be handled correctly because BEN was there !! He was always on top of his game with a smile and friendly hello. When I received an email from his roommate telling me of this terrible news...I was devastated. I will miss Ben very much...he is and will always be missed and remembered.

thanks for it all.
by AnoNymOus
ben booked us shows a lot. there was one time though, he booked us for the sean paul show. there were two bands that wanted on the main stage but he asked us if we wanted to do it. i thought it was one of the coolest gestures that he as a booking guy could do. he was always mad busy but if we ever stopped him even for stupid stuff he would always stop and take the time to help us out. he is a pretty rad guy. you are in my my thoughts man.

Ben's Hugs
by Tina C
I've know Ben for a good 7 years now. Every time we've seen each other , he always made it a point to give me the greatest of hugs that I think I've ever recieved in all my years yet he was such a shy little bit of a man, he had a great heart. This is just a nightmare and shows us all how short life is and how we should all hold our loved ones close and stop the indifferances.

Ben
by MR
I met Ben a few times when I was attending shows at the Webster. When I was helping a friend of a friend run a Charity show, Ben was extremely helpful in making sure she had everything she needed (it was her first time running a show). When she was done asking him questions, he and I briefly talked music business. I didn't know him on a personal level, but after the night I helped with a show, when he saw me he smiled and said hello. My thoughts and prayers go out to those who knew him on a much more personal level.

Ben
by Cassie
I must admit that this all feels surreal, seeing as how hard it has been to consume the idea of what has happened. I can't even fathom going to the Webster and not seeing ya around. You are truly an awesome person. Although I wish there was more times we had to hang out, I'm glad our paths have crossed and I had the opportunity to get to know you, whether through the Webster or elsewhere. I always admired your passion for music and the work you have done. I will remember you as a great friend; for your kindness, thoughtfulness, and hilarious sense of humor. It still cracks me up to think about those oddball gifts you'd get. You are greatly missed by all, rest in peace.

You Will Be missed
by TALLchris
I never got to know Ben on a personal level, but at my time with Radio 104 I got to know Ben on a work level. He was always cracking a smile and getting his job done. A tremendous soul and he will be missed greatly. May his ambition for life live on in all of us.

great guy
by ross pelletier
ben was a very great guy and always helped out my bands jovi and untitled,ben always worked with us and bent over backwords to help us out.we really will miss a great guy like ben at the webster theater and as a friend..

Working with BEN
by Ron Fredericks / NP2
Hi, My name is Ron Fredericks, lead singer of the Seymour based group NP2. We played 65 shows and Ben took a chance on us and our 5th show was the Webster Theater. We then returned 4 more times, capping it off by opening for The Machine, the Pink Floyd Cover band. Just a week or 2 before Ben went on his trip, he emailed me and offered us to play there a 5th time. He was a great guy and fun to work with. He gave us changes that others clubs wouldn't.

Ben
by Troy
Ididnt get to know Ben too personal, however I did have the pleasure of working for him at the Webster. He was always cool to me personaly and my son he's helped so many bands get started and brought us some kickin professional shows Ben Will definately be missed by all and I'm sure he will be watching over the placed he love The Webster God Bless You Ben Rest In Peace

Taken too soon.. :(
by Vanessa
Ben, I have known you for many, many years in my time hanging out at the Webster and outside of the Webster. You were always there for me no matter what! Even when the show got extremely busy, you would always run by, flash a smile and say "hey! Good to see you!! I'll see you in a bit" or if I needed something, you were the one I could count on, nothing was too big or too small of a thing to ask. You were always so proud to call me your friend and I was as well! We knew each other in a professional way--he ALWAYS helped with EVERYTHING I needed during a radio promotion in the years I worked for radio (no matter how annoying). Also, in a personal way through just hanging out during and after local and bigger shows (I've been going to the Webster since I was 15, so its been quite a while and formed who I am today!!). Ben always had a warm smile with such a caring demeanor, always asking what I was up to and when we were going to hang out again because I lived so far away, but I would always find time to stop by the Webster in my travels. That place has taught me so much about music and in a way inspired me to continue on a career in the music business. He booked so much of the CT local scene, and highlighted some of the best bands anyone will see, giving them a chance to start off and become known! It will be so empty coming back to the theater and not having Ben, busy as he was, running around but still having that moment to flash a smile. I miss you my mohawked buddy. :( My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and all those whose lives you made a difference in.

Never met him..
by Tim
I have never met Ben personally but have gone to many shows at the Webster. I have heard nothing but great things about him and he will definitely be missed. R.I.P Ben

Music in CT wont be the same..ever!
by Michael Clements
My good friend Ben..I have sooooo many good memories of you, but mostly you:Always wanting me to be at the show...Always wanting to help me get in contact with someone to bring more artist to the webster..Always looking out for me..Always making sure I was not missing out on whatever was going on..Always introducing me to people like I was someone much more important than I really was..Always telling the truth and respecting my opinion..Always there when I needed you..Ben my good friend...ALWAYS..ALWAYS..ALWAYS DOING SOMETHING GOOD FOR ME! We texted and emailed more than we actually spoke and the outcome was ALWAYS positive..was ALWAYS beneficial for me..was ALWAYS more than I asked for...I will ALWAYS owe you and NEVER forget you....R.I.P. MIKE BLAST Authentic First Fridays

Mourner's Kaddish
by Mark Rosenberg
An english translation of the Jewish Mourner's Kaddish: Glorified and sanctified be God's great name throughout the world which He has created according to His will. May He establish His kingdom in your lifetime and during your days, and within the life of the entire House of Israel, speedily and soon; and say, Amen. May His great name be blessed forever and to all eternity. Blessed and praised, glorified and exalted, extolled and honored, adored and lauded be the name of the Holy One, blessed be He, beyond all the blessings and hymns, praises and consolations that are ever spoken in the world; and say, Amen. May there be abundant peace from heaven, and life, for us and for all Israel; and say, Amen. He who creates peace in His celestial heights, may He create peace for us and for all Israel; and say, Amen.

A little prayer
by ~K~
You meant a lot to an old friend of mine....my heart and my prayers goes out to you, your family and all of your loves ones. There are one set of prints....may God continue to carry you and your loved ones.

Memories last a lifetime...
by Rachel Christie
I don't know exactly how long I have known Ben, but I have many memories of him. Though I have not seen Ben in quite a while, I will always remember him and his very kind family. I can remember being young and going into his family's restaurant in North Stonington. His parents were friends of my parents and we would go there to chat with them...Ben would bring out all the food. Ben also attended my childhood youth group. He was a kind and gentle spirit. What a tragedy to lose him. We will all miss you...we're comforted to know you're with the God, the healer of our hearts. To Ben's family, I am so sorry. I pray that you find comfort and peace through all of this. May God bless you and I'll keep you in my prayers.

Never forget....
by Rachel King
Ben, you were always a good person to be around. You will be forever missed by family,friends and of course yours truly...the webster staff. Keep an eye on me up their k, hun? I'll see you again.

ben
by amanda s.
thank you for everything. although i just met you this summer, you made it so much fun interning. you were awesome. so sad this happened, but i know you're in a good place.

Through tears...
by Ed and Dee, OELMM
My name is Dee and I am the former booking agent for One Eyed Lizard Music Management. We first met Ben about 5 years ago through our association with Mugshot Militia. Upon first meeting Ben I can remember thinking what a nice guy Ben was. In the years to come, he proved that to me every single time we spoke. Most recently, Ben helped us to introduce our son's band, ONCE IN RUIN to the CT Music scene and, because of Ben, they were afforded an opportunity to play with The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. (We don't think they would have had that opportunity otherwise). We are greatful for having known Ben and we are sad beyond words to think we will never see him again. Above all else, we are in awe of the dedication, love and support of Ben's friends. You are all truly amazing and we will always keep you in our prayers. "Ben, you are an amazing young man and forever will be". God speed!

A great friend to all
by Scott Bidwell
Anyone who knew Ben was truly blessed. So rare is it in this life to meet someone who was looking out for the underdog. Ben helped me so much, I'd be doing it an injustice to try and put it in words. He gave me work when I needed it, gave my band opportunities that most promoters/booking agents would laugh at. It has been a great honer to have know such a great person. The world lost a great person, the music scene lost one of the best it ever had. Godspeed my friend.

Fellow Wheeler Lion
by Tim Brink
I grew up with Ben, from Elementary School to graduation day. Ben and I had a High School Graduation class of about 50 people, most of us knowing each other all our lives. From our home town of North Stonington, you can feel the loss of Ben. Ben and I went to the same youth group and had the same friends. I wish I had gotten to know him better. The last time I saw Ben was at our 10 year High School Reunion, which Ben and a few other people organized and made happen. I remember Ben enlisting me in helping him try and locate all of our classmates. It was so important to him to have everybody there. I felt like we all meant something to him. Ben and I talked a long time that night about life in general and some music we had in common. Ben was that type of guy, the person you could approach and talk to like you've known him all your life, regardless if you have or have not. The only memento I have from Ben is a signed Static-X poster, which I will never get rid of. I wish I knew that would be the last time I ever talked to him, I would have had so much more to say to him. Ben was a kind soul. His family is in our family's prayers.

A truly good person
by DeeDee Kearney
My thoughts are with Ben's family and many friends. I didn't know Ben very well personally, it was more of a professional relationship. I work at Capitol Records so our paths crossed often, and he was so easy and fun to work with. Our last conversation was last year regarding the band Yellowcard, and I remember thinking , wow, I wish everyone was this great and easy to work with. The universe must have had a reason to take this lovey soul so early, and I have to believe that Ben is in a very peaceful, and loving place.

all around one of the best people i know...
by jennifer
i was fortunate enough to both be a friend of ben's and to work with him. he is an amazing person all around. it is a very rare situation that any business mixes well with friends...of course it would with ben (c'mon...he was a promoter that every band loved! when does that happen?) i cannot tell you how many times he cheered me up; when our conversation started i was almost in tears, and when it ended, ben had me smiling... at the same time, we would joke around and pick on each other mercilessly. his last myspace comment to me said it all as far as that is concerned, and reading it gives me a strange comfort. i still don't think that i have fully grasped that the world now exists without ben, but i do know i really miss him...

Such A Great Spirit
by Colette
Its hard these days to meet people who are genuinely nice. We met ben about 9 years ago, Ben was more than just a nice guy. He has helped so many bands get where they are today, and given countless opportunities to locals. My husband and I are very sad to lose such a great friend. We looked forward to hanging out before shows at the webster, and Ben always had time to talk despite a hectic show ahead. He never lost the "good guy" "down to earth" part of himself. I am glad to have known such a great person in my lifetime. I pray for his family and friends that they may find peace knowing Ben is watching us all and smiling down on us. Let his memories live on forever. We miss you Ben. R.I.P.

Ben Wu has been a great guy always
by Sam Kaplowitz
Ben has always been a great guy when it came to putting together shows at the Webster with my band over the last 7 years. This is a terrible loss to not only the music community, but friends, family, and anyone who ever came into contact with him. While he was always running around working hard at the Webster, he always remembered my name, my band, and always said hi if not more. I hope that we can help or be a part of any benefit events in the future for him.

Big Ben
by Beef Stew - 106.9 WCCC
I barely knew Ben, but well enough for him to seek my opinion about local and national artists he was thinking about putting in The Webster. Once a band was booked, Ben was always right there for radio promtion and ticket give aways. Supportin' & Representin'

Music goes with him
by WTH
Ben, You dont know me really, my band has played at the webster alot but youve always helped us out and this world is so tragic that i hope where ever you are now its better than here. And im sure it is. Thanks for a chance

One of the Good Guys
by Bob Bittens
I have been involved with the Connecticut music and media scene in one way or another for over thirty years and have met hundreds of people during that time. In a business filled with huge egos and childish behavior, Ben was among a handful of people who really stood out for his honesty, humility, even temper, and true dedication to creating a better environment for both musicians and fans. I'll always remember him as one of the Good Guys.

Ben=Kindred Spirit...
by OPUS
Words can not describe this loss. He was a one of a kind all around good dude. He always helped me & my career ever since I started & with out any questions or doubts. Ben always went above & beyond his call of duty to make things happen. It is very sad & tragic but hopfully he is with the great spirit now, although I will hold & keep good thoughts about him until we know more, wishing that maybe there is some shred of hope still. You are an inspiration to most people around here in the local music scene. Ben, all I want to say is thank you for your years of support!!! You rule bud...

Ben & Wheeler 1996
by Fred Souza
As the advisor to Ben's high school class, I can truly say Ben will be missed by many who were his friends in those all important "growing" years. I can't even imagine the planning for the next reunion since Ben played such a significant role in the planning of the last one. He was tireless in helping to find classmates, in preparing and storing "prizes" and in coming to planning meetings (even though that meant an hour or more ride for him). The Class of 1996 has now lost its first alumnus. As the poet said, "Ask not for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee...every man's death diminishes me." So,it is with sorrow that we accept that you will no longer be with us in life, but always you are a part of those who knew you, laughed with you, sometimes argued with you, and who watched you grow up. May you rest in peace and may your family find comfort in knowing how much you mattered to others.

Always had time to say hi
by Dan Small
Even in the middle of the busiest events of the year Ben would always have time to stop and chat with me for a while. I got to know Ben years ago when I was promoting a band I was. Ben gave us a chance and that really meant a lot to me. For years after that time I would stop by for shows and Ben and I would buy each other a beer when we saw each other. He really was a generous and warm person. I think everybody that knew him lost a great friend.

Ben
by Mike Karolyi
I didn't know Ben as well many of you but I knew him well enough to realize what a good guy he is. We would trade emails about shows coming to the Webster. He would pick my brain wondering how well a show would do or he would ask if WCCC would run a promotion to support certain artists. He was always accomodating and eager to work with me to get the job done. I have worked with many people in the music business and I would be hard pressed to find a kinder soul than that of Ben Wu. He will be missed.

A real loss...
by Tom Baggott
This is awful. I found Ben to be a warm, interested person on the other end of the phone. We never met, but I enjoyed working with him many times over the years. He always made something work if he believed in the band-- or even the agent. He was smart, funny and fair-- three things that are hard enough to find individually in this business, nevermind all in one person. What a strange and awful thing to have happen. My sincerest sympathies go out to all of Ben's friends and family.

BEN 'BUDDY DADDY' WU
by BUFF DADDY
Ben was a great guy ,,, he gave us a change at the webster without even hearing the band and went on our word that we would do a great job bringing the rockers . Ben knew we would and a for bout 5 yrs always gave us first choice,, he always laughed and said what are you doin here this is not your kinda show and i would say hey man im selling to the parents lol he gave alot of local bands a chance when no one else would. THANK YOU BEN FOR BELIEVING IN US !!!!! BEN WILL ALWAYS BE WITH US

Ben , you left too soon
by John Finberg
My fondest memory of Ben was when I returned home from Thailand in Jan 2005 and had just been through hell in a tsunami and I got a ton of emails and calls to my office but only 2 people called my cell phone and Ben was one of them , wishing me well and telling me to call as soon as I can ... The message came 24 hours after the wave hit.... I cant cell your cell phone Ben to wish you well , but I wanted to say that I will miss you very much and all the conversations and the friendship that was forged since then and how much of a positive impact you had on my business and sometimes when I caught you at the right moment , my life.... You are someone people will model themselves after in the future and may your memory continue on forever

Last summer
by Purple Hash Click
Ben booked a date for our tour last summer. Ben was one of the most professional well mannered people I have ever dealt with. Our love goes out to his family and close friends. We didn't know him as well as you all did but he will be truly missed!

Ben's smiling face
by Nikki DeFosse
I worked as a bartender for the Webster in the early 2000's. I heard from afar about Ben and was very sad. Thinking back, I can't remember one time when Ben was not smiling or happy. He was always so kind to me-even if I was in a bad mood. The time I spent at the Webster was a great experience in my life and I will always remember Ben's smile. I wish peace to everyone that is mourning.

Ben brought dreams to life
by Gary Melanson
I'm a music writer who thanks Ben Wu for his support when I launched my web site, Connecticut Concert (www.ctconcert.com), two years ago. He suggested promotions centered around tickets to Webster Theater concerts, sent me press releases and invited me to shows. Though he was busy, Ben always took time to respond to emails and I made it a point to see him when I visited the theater. Mostly, I thank him for his support and giving me credibility, for believing in me and my dream. I'm sure there are plenty of bands who owe the same debt of gratitude. Ben brought dreams to life. God bless you, Ben, and your loved ones.

One of the best
by Scott Forsyth
i only worked with Ben a score of times or so, and didnt know him personally. but every time i needed a date for my artists, Ben found a way to make it happen. He was one of the few good ones. An honest, smart talent buyer who would never give you the farm but would always give a fair deal. But on top of that, he was supremely supportive of the developing artist, regardless of genre. When he recognized talent, he would find slots, create early shows, open up alternate dates, etc, to make sure that bands always had a home in Hartford. From what i've heard, Ben was an even better person than he was a promoter. so... damn it. this world needs more of you, not less. peace be with you, Ben.

Dude!!!!
by Mike Kelley
Life is way too short. In the years that I have dealt with Ben through my agency booking shows at the Webster, I gotta say Ben was never anything less than an absolute pleasure to deal with and a man of absolute integrity and honesty, A true rarity in a business filled with jaded bitter crooks. Ben, we all can only hope that somewhere, somehow, you surface, alive and well. If for some reason you dont, may you rest at peace in the angels embrace.

Shows
by Big Groove
I met Ben when he first came to work fo Justein @ the Webster Theater I had been in the promo Buissness 1991 But he was the best add on to the Webster theater.. he would call me ask me on advice on certain shows& act that he felt i was better familar.. He also would give me first dibs up in coming tour packages, that a average promoter wouldnt get ... I was able to to take on some of them... He would always came though for me I also could call on him for advice some contacts ect.... I am very sad about this but, I know he In the sky look down @ Us much love 2 you Ben & Your family & the Whole Webster Team I know You guys Rememeber Good ole Groove... Like my self There will be another Ben WU One hell of a Dude...Tell bIGGIE & TUPAC i SAID WHATS uP lOVE. BIG GROOVE Jwillgetitdone@hotmail.com Last Show WE DID JIM JONES 2006 EJ. Davis Construction Company

We miss you Ben
by Zak Hooper
Ben was always a soft spoken, kind hearted person who was always calm amidst the greatest chaos. When I worked with Ben, he seemed to have the simplest answers for the most complex situations and did it the coolest head. He always helped local acts and gave up-and-coming bands opportunities to play shows. He was a businessman with a heart of gold. There was only one Ben Wu, but I hope he has inspired those in the music business to follow suit. We all miss you and we all love you, man.

Ben
by Curt
I can't count how many times I've seen fellow employees cursing and tearing hair out because a show got a little too hectic for them to handle; and then there was Ben. Calm and collected, it seemed as though he had the answers to everyone's problem. It always amazed me how he could hold things together when nobody else thought it was possible. After more than 3 years of working at the Webster, I thought I had seen it all. Even after Nick and Curtis were gone, everybody remembered the good times and the laughs we had... but this stings more than it should. It makes us ask why this happens with the best of them. We all know that the Webster staff turns into a 'family' of sorts after a while, but it's gonna take a long time to get used to not seeing the hawk floating around the theater. I think I speak on behalf of so many when I say that you changed lives, no matter how minutely or considerably, for the better. You'll be sincerely missed, bud. “To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die." - Thomas Campbell

How I met Ben...
by Cindy Moore
I remember about 8 yrs ago I called Ben regarding handing out fliers in exchange to see a show at the Webster. I thought it was the coolest deal. He was so nice and had that certain something that made you feel like you've known him forever. The last time I handed out fliers for him was a few yrs. ago but I still would talk to him atleast once a month by computer. The last time I did talk to him was the first week in January. I heard a great quote the other day on TV, "Lots of people walk into your life, but few leave lasting footprints." Wherever Ben is I wish him peace and comfort.

The greatest loss
by Steve
I first met Ben when I asked if he needed help loading in Judas Priest some years back. I ended up working for Ben and Jeff for a while. I was always amazed at Ben's calm demeanor, no matter how stressful the situation was. He'd hear a message on his radio, usually someone at the other end screaming at how something wasn't working properly or something like that, shake his head a bit, smile, and be off to make sure the problem was taken care of. Because Ben booked my old band, I was able to meet my future wife. I've been on a few tours since then, and my career is taking off pretty well. My entire family is involved in it. When I look back on everything, I realize that I owe Ben a HUGE thank you for giving me a chance to begin with. Ben, we all miss you....The Connecticut music scene will never be the same!

Loss
by Hope
I didn't know Ben, a friend of mine does, and this is how I knew about this whole situation, and have been following it so closely... I am praying for his loved ones and am so sorry for the loss of someone who is obviously an incredible person... don't speak of him in the past tense, keep him alive in your hearts... the love and memories he left everyone with will never die!!!

a poem for ben
by Dove
A LIFE ENDS, AND WE'RE LEFT STANDING ALONE IN THE DARK, HOLDING ONTO MEMORIES TIME PASSES AND YOU'RE EVERYWHERE. WE HEAR YOUR VOICE IN THE WIND, IN EVERY WORD WE SING, IN ALL THE NOTES WE PLAY, YOU SURROUND US, CONSUME US. WE WILL REMEMBER YOU ALWAYS, YOU ARE ALIVE IN OUR HEARTS..TILL WE MEET AGAIN.

The Small Things
by Anonymous
I'm never going to forget how amazingly perceptive Ben was. For someone who had a job where it'd seem that he'd be going a mile a minute, he was still able to pick up on all the little things around him. I'm a hip-hop artist, and it's kind of customary for rappers to have aliases. I never introduced myself to Ben with my first name in 05, but he somehow got it and started calling me by it. What sucks about this for me is, I was just starting to feel like Ben and I were becoming friends. I know he's a great guy, and I'm going to miss him. Ben, if my music career ever does anything, it's going to be because you were one of the first people to give me a chance. Thanks for everything my friend.

Just remember....
by chrissi
For Ben's loved ones, Friends & Family, I know you think I've left you, My voice you no longer hear... But close your eyes and see my face And you'll always have me near. I'll always see your smile, And share your happy days, I'll be there when you need me To help in secret ways. Remember when your laughing, That I am Laughing too- And when you feel sad and alone I'm standing there by you. For in your heart, I'll always live, No matter the years go by... I'm here for you- no matter what My kind of love can't die. For comfort read Psalm 91

Ben
by Vinny - ROADHORSE
I’ve kept Ben’s last email in my inbox. I look at it and wish for another to somehow appear, as if nothing has happened. I found Ben to be a really nice guy and great help to many bands, mine included. For a lot of us, I believe seeing and visiting with him truly added to the Webster’s appeal. He shall always be a part of it and whenever I’m there it will help to be around others who, like me, were lucky enough to know him. Vinny

gonna miss you
by Greg G
Ben we worked together for a long time and even though the Webster can be a tough place you always told me it's not that bad it's just another show . there are alot of people who are going to miss you Ben and I am one of them .I can only hope you are in a better place

Ben
by JF
75% of the earth is covered by the ocean. It’s much fuller now…They say that a man is measured by his courage, but I say a man is measured by the amount of sorrow people feel when he’s gone. We’ll miss you Ben Wu. You are one of a kind and can never be replaced. Be well on your journeys. We love you.

A Great Loss
by A friend
I've been struggling for words to describe what I'm sure we've all been going through... Ben was a truly special person and his absence will be felt by many on a daily basis.